Los Angeles Divorce Lawyer

Discussing Divorce with Your Children

At Stolar & Associates, our Los Angeles divorce lawyers understand that during your divorce you are concerned not only about separating from your spouse but about the effect divorce will have on your children. The firm's attorneys have some suggestions:

Talk to a California divorce lawyer before talking to your children or spouse

The best time to establish a relationship with the attorney you are going to work with during the difficult process of divorce is before you discuss the divorce with your spouse or your children. Mistakes or misunderstandings early in the process can have a long-lasting effect. If you would like to arrange a free consultation with a Los Angeles divorce lawyer from our firm please contact our Beverly Hills, California, office to make arrangements.

Keep details of divorce between you and your spouse

Your children may suffer badly if you discuss details of your divorce in their presence. Talk to your lawyer, your counselor, your best friend about the hurt you have experienced or your disappointment in your marriage, but not to your children. Do not at any time before or after divorce criticize your (ex) spouse in front of your children. Remember, that person is still their parent. The court will sometimes issue a good-will order to a parent to refrain from words or actions that will interfere with the parent-child relationship.

Tell your children you and your spouse will work together to help them

You have no choice—you are about to begin a new co-parenting relationship with your spouse. For the sake of your children you need that relationship to function as well as possible as you work out terms of custody and support.

Be honest about terms of your custody agreement

You may not be able to see your children as often or for as many hours, but with the help of an experienced and sensitive divorce lawyer you will, through a creative custody agreement, arrange to spend as much time as possible together. Be sure your children know they will still have two parents. They may even have more focused parental attention under the visitation arrangement than before the divorce.

If you would like to speak with one of our Los Angeles divorce lawyers please contact our Beverly Hills law firm for a free consultation. We are committed to taking care of our clients and their families.